We are all a part of some “system” which has been called the “Family Constellation.” It is a social group and each member contributes to its success. A couple or parents and their children do not live alone and problems that exist impact everyone in the home. In times of discord most people want to identify the one on whom they can place the responsibility for change.
The marriage and family therapist is concerned with the dynamics of the family. To deal with only one person may be helpful. However, whenever possible the therapist hopes to work with all who contribute to the well being of that group. This means that parents in a family are vital to the process just as the spouse is a part of the dynamics of a marriage.
Everyone has some system of values or beliefs. They may not be clearly defined. These beliefs may or may not have a religious basis; however, they always have a spiritual side. One may think they can be ignored, but they impact every action. When belief and behavior are in conflict, there is discord in relationships and lead to behaviors that are destructive.
One of the tasks of the therapist is to help the client clarify what his/her values are and to bring their behavior into alignment as best they can.